My Views On Relationships

Having been in a long distance relationship has changed my views on relationships in such a good way, here’s how …

You realize how simple, yet important communication is… just letting them know what you are doing and that you are thinking of them is so easy. The distance allows you to miss them more, therefore creating stronger feelings and more anticipation until the next time you see each other.Distance helps you with balance, you’re not all up under each other 24/7… so you can be more productive, but still make time. A long distance love allows the two of you to take your time, get to know each other and grow. When the time is right future plans together will come.

It’s a 50/50 thing

You realize it takes TWO to make it work. It’s a 50/50 thing. You get what you give… but something about distance makes you want it more.
In a long distance relationship, taking 4-5 hourss car rides to each other is nothing… so there’s nothing to worry about. See each other every two weeks or once a month.
In a long distance relationship, never forget to reassure each other. The doubts will come… so this is needed on both sides. Yet simple.
Long distance relationships require more work, but you realize it’s worth it if you really want it. The effort comes naturally.
Remember, no relationship should feel like a job. It’s about creating a bond with someone, memories, and having fun along the way.
Overall, taking a chance on having been in a long distance relationship was one of the best decisions I’ve made. I highly recommend it!

Long distance relationships require more work

For the first time, I feel like I’m with someone who genuinely cares about me and making it work with me. He’s honestly put in more work. Us women can appreciate a man and the relationship when he puts in more work. It’s not a requirement, but it’s nice because it’s so rare these days. One thing this generation has to work on in relationships, is giving up. We give up too easily when it’s not going our way. Speaking from personal experience its not too hard to figure out. It’s either worth it or not. Gotta ask yourself „Am I getting what I deserve?“

Also, never make a relationship your everything. Make sure that you’re still hanging with friends, accomplishing goals… Personal growth! This is just me speaking from my own personal experiences, in hopes that I can help someone else… that’s all.

Timo and I met over three years ago, have been officially dating for over 2.5 years. We spent the first two years in that long distance relationship. Last summer  he moved to Essen to play basketball for a new team. Suddenly we were that much closer. Less than an hour way. Today we’ve been living together for a few months. And are enjoying our everyday life with our puppy Casper.
I am so excited to be piecing together this life by his side. We’ve come a long way and proved a lot of people wrong. Love always wins.




1 thought on “My Views On Relationships”

  1. Liebe Jacky, hast du in den Staaten gelebt über die ersten 2 Jahre? Mein Freund ist aus Florida und meine Gedanken plagen sich damit, wie lange man generell warten kann, bis man zusammen ist. Wir kennen uns jetzt fast ein Jahr und sind 8 Monate ein Paar. Aber es fällt mit jetzt schon schwer mit dieser Distanz zu leben! Woher weiß ich , dass sich mein Gefühl nicht täuscht. Kann man sich auf Amerikanische Männer gut verlassen, wenn man selbst spür, dass es der richtige ist? War es eine schwere Zeit für euch vor dem Zusammenziehen und beim zusammenziehen? (papiere, Heimweh, Familie ect). WIe ist es heute für dich? Lenkt die Liebe dich ab von deiner Sehnsucht in die USA? Ich danke dir falls du dir die Zeit zum Antworten nimmst! Have a good one! Sabine

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